The Blonde Bombshell is back, and missed you all. As you see from the title, the subject is TO MEET OR NOT TO MEET someone you talk to online. Is it safe? You tell me. The stories i've heard from friends and read in the paper tell me no. My concerns are, did the guy send the real picture or no, (women also), when you meet a person you've talked to what if he isn't at all what his/her picture lools like? Do you run, pretend it's ok they lied to you? There is so much to find out before you take that step to meet a stranger from online, be it male or female.
The last story I read was a woman that agreed to meet a guy she met online, she set him up to be beat up and robbed, so it happens to guys as well as us women. I talked to a guy for a while on the phone, I was ready to finally meet him, when he called and asked me to borrow 5 thousand, for his rent, child support, etc. Of course that turned me right off, and no, I didn't meet him.
Would love to hear your story , was your meeting good or bad? I also have guys ask me to marry them , this is guys i've never met face to face.
There are surprises if you date off of aol. but there are set backs also, so i've learned, from dating a guy I met at the gym, or when I was out dancing, even rock climbing.
So how do we choose guys and girls who we date, I was told online guys are looking for one nighters, is that true guys? I was also told by a male friend that he met a girl, and she stole his credit cards, so he said never again .
The truth being this blonde bombshell will think twice about where , when, and who she dates, and how we meet. Maybe someday the right guy (which I thought I found), but he disappeared,
but maybe someday be it aol, or at the lounge or gym, the right guy will make me feel safe enough to have lunch with him no matter how we meet.
Let me know your zingers, your good meets, and your bad meets from the computer you sit at every day.
The blonde bombshell
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first off i am no expert on this subject but i have been on AOL going on 11 years and have had my share of bad dates or "dates from hell". one thing i have learned over the years is to meet in a "public place", that way you can either sneak out PLUS HAVE LOTS OF PEOPLE AROUND IF YOU START TO SCREAM and i make them wait to meet me or call me on phone at least 3 months. Most women can't wait and i upset them to where they leave and i never hear from them again.. plus if you fly, go to a motel "NOT" to their house, condo, apartment, etc, no matter what they offer, like no need for you to stay in a motel, you can stay at my place, i have a extra bedroom with its own bathroom and will be cheaper. Don't do it. that thought is tempting but what if date goes sore? then they are stuck with you and they try to make you comfortable even though you aren't. then if you try to change your plane ticket, forget it, price goes up. that is why i drive now, no more flying and if date goes bad, i can leave. with them You don't go anywhere, you feel trapped in their house, they are afraid to take you anywhere where you might be seen with them. its not that i sent a bad or an old picture, hers was just as real like she was, i just had a feeling she met someone prior to me showing up and everything that was stated on phone or in the mail just wasn't going to happen. when bedtime came, it was like crawling into a iceberg, thinking how can i sneak out of here but being out of state, i was screwed. situations like that can break a persons heart, hopes and dreams of what might have been, then afterwards i go into hiding for awhile till i heal my wounds.
i have never ever had a one nighter, i never bring the woman back to my house and i have never gone into their house after a date for a drink or two. i never want the woman to feel she owes me anything for me taking her out on a date. it was just that, a date to have some fun and laughter, and i go home alone.
one thing about meeting someone from online, you find out as much as you can from them, their likes and dislikes, (spiders) harmless creatures but to others, they are scared to death of them. then over time you ask for a phone number or exchange phone numbers and talk on the phone just to hear the other persons voice. then over time, "trust" becomes an issue, can you trust that person with your address? the man usually gives his first to calm the female then the female won't tell hers? why? they are over 1000 miles apart, not like him getting in his car and driving all night and day to find her? now it has been 15 months of knowing her online and have talked and texted on the cell and she still won't give her address. do you trust this woman? or can she be trusted? or what is she hiding?
at least by meeting someone on the street you can see them and maybe have some kind of attraction, but they could still be a rapist or a killer. online it is a different story, you go by what you hear, what they say. if by chance gifts can be exchanged, you can tell by what they send you. could be something goofy or just plain simple. over time a persons "heart" gets invloved then an attraction can be made then they want to meet in person. by then they will be meeting like old friends, they should have found out alot about each other on the phone or snail mail. instead of strangers on the street---taking chances.
finding somebody from AOL is like the OLD game show--DATING GAME. 3 guys on one side of wall and female on other side asking questions and she pick from their answers. isn't that a chance?
"swtshyman"
I have been online for almost 10 yrs and I can honestly say most of the people I have met, it was a pleasure. I did have 1..... Just 1 person I wish I would have handled differently.
Jerry
first of all if i met a girl and it turned out not to be the pic she sent me --BYE- why do you say well thats a lie...not a way i wanna start a posible relationship...borrow money from me and i dont know you.-BYE AGAIN--not that i have much but i would NEVER ask anyone for rent or child support that i do pay and i dont want any help, especially from someone i dont know...and third thing, i DONT fall in love with someone by just talking to them on the phone and just seeing a pic of them. maybe i can like someone from talking to them on the phone,cause we might have some things in common. but that and a pic are only an attraction......
Welcome back Blonde, sure missed your articles. Like your new article, and yes i've met some doozies. One girl, sent pics. was just my type, when we met, she was about 250 lbs heavier, and about 15 years older. The attraction I felt for her over the phone was gone, but being the gentleman I am, I did buy her lunch, but told her if she had been honest with me from the beginning , her looks wouldn't have mattered that much.
Then she began stalking me, calling me all hours, e mails all day. Finally I changed my #, and blocked her screen name. So keep those articles coming, Us guys like to tell our stories too beautiful. I feel in my heart, you're one of those confident sexy ladies.
Luke
Well girlfriend, you are back. Am female, and yea, met a guy from online. The first time we met, the jerk actually tried to rape me.That ended meeting anyone on aol. I know, any date can do that. But next time, i'll know the guy a lot better,
p.s. and bring my pepper spray.
Mary Louise
p.s.s. keep the articles coming, I found your column on craigs list.
After giving it much thought and having been on both sides of the line here many thoughts come to mind.
I agree that this format on line is a way of getting to know someone over a period of time, then developing to telephone, and eventually finally meeting in person. The best way to see if you are interested in the other person is to look at the pros and cons of the relationship to this point and see if your level of comfort is something you can feel comfortable with.
Next step is given that not every person is bad in the world, and each individual you read about or hear about, possibly including yourself, has had a personal experience that not to go beyond your individual comfort level, and that has to be respected, and will be. Yet, after all this time how would an individual know if this was the "RIGHT ONE" after years of getting to know someone unless the next step of meeting actually comes to past?
The meet should be at an arranged PUBLIC place, during daylight, in a setting both are comfortable with. Listen to what each has to bring to the relationship face to face, and understand that each person is an individual and if anything is to develop it takes work on both halves.
Once you are totally satisfied with the online stage, move on to the telephone stage, and feel that the point of meeting was something deep down in your heart you both really wanted, waited for the correct time and location, and came away together as a couple to develop, the final step is to listen to your heart.
If it has been skipping beats for this moment in time, it now will beat together for the future if just given a chance...
Should none of the above feel right, you walk away before it goes any further, and at least know you have tried.
Everyone deserves a chance, even if it takes forever..
A friend called after I told him about my night, about your article.I am an LA police officer,and met my first aoler for dinner tonight. We have been e mailing for about 3 months, so I figured it was time I took her to dinner.
Yes she was beautiful, and yes at first I thought sexy as all get out, then she opened her mouth, once she began talking, I couldn't get a word in edgewise.Any question she asked me , she also answered for me. This was frustrating as hell. I listened to this woman talk for 3 hours non stop. Forget the beauty, and the sexy look, this woman commanded attention the entire 3 hours. Finally I got a call, told her I had to leave, she actually demanded to know who called me. So I put her in a cab and politely sent her home.
Well blonde the next time I ask a woman to dinner it will be with someone I already met. You my dear , sound like you know your stuff, wish you were a CA woman.
Jason
p.s. By the way I do love blondes.
HI CLOUDHOPA,
I DO AGREE WITH EVERYTHING YOU WROTE. WANNA HOP A CLOUD WITH ME?
BLONDE BOMBSHELL
Dear Ms Bombshell,
Very interesting offer..I am sure I can make the time for the next 20 or 30 years to find a spot on a cloud for you to share when you are ready...And it still skips a beat every now and then...but in a good way now..might just have to take you up on it...
I love it! Anyone that answers blogs Anonymously is the first flag. You can judge people by body language and a little talking. The policeman should know that, yet he meets a stranger and meets her somewhere. OR..are you a cop? How do we know? I've met many women on the internet. I'm good friends with many women. I have a website that I give to everyone so they can judge me first. That works good. It's not a one page wonder thats created in 10 minutes. But what do I have to worry about? 6'5", 254 lbs., All man. Any girls dream. Come see me Ladies, THE BLONDE BOMBSHELL does. www.gimpgumbo.com FYI...She is a Mans Woman, but not one she meets over the internet. Sorry Babe.
Lewie..
Welcome back Blonde. Missed your articles. Yea I do meet chicks from online, and women have asked me to meet them. The stories I could tell you would blow your mind sweetheart. Only one woman was who she said she was, but hated gambling. Since I work at a casino in AC, that didn't work. Both guys and girls can be whoever they want online, but to meet you have to be just who you are, and most aren't.My worse meeting was with a good looking woman,good personality, the works.
After 2 dates, she asks me if she can work the casino I work in, meaning she told me she was a hooker, and wanted to work the bar, not in the bar, but the guys at the bar.I say she used me to try to get her business going at my workplace.
Now forget aol, yo Blonde, come to AC, will comp you with room and meals, just to see you in person.
AC JOE
You are so right about safe or sorry Blonde. But in our case, we took a long time to get to know each other, step by step, long distance in the beginning. Then I sent my wife Lynn (a New Yorker) a ticket to visit me in Kentucky.After getting to know each other, and travelling back and forth to meet each other, we were married, and have a wonderful 8 year old son. I hope you like hearing at least one success aol story.
The problem is most people don't take the time first to go step by step. My wife and I read and love all your articles, you write about what people are afraid to talk about.Actually you tell it like it is.
Jerry and Lynn
Dear Jerry and Lynn,
I am so happy to hear your success story. I hope there are more out there like you two. I started writing this column to let people know about online scams and successes, since it's a computer world.I have many friends online, I guess in the world of computers the opportunities are endless.
Congrats to you both.
Blonde Bombshell
Hello again Blonde, you sure do choose the right topics to write about. I'm a 42 year old male in Chicago. I've had my share of the safe and sorry online meetings.The safe was with a woman I took to lunch, but we didn't click, so that was that. The sorry was when a woman from Ohio asked if she could come visit me. I told her sure. I even paid for a hotel room for her. I took her to dinner, she complained all night about the food, then she complained about Chicago. Told me (not asked or suggested) but told me I have to move to Ohio to be closer to her. This is during our first meeting. I told her NO MA'AM, Chicago is my home. She went balistic, started making a scene at the restaurant, tossed her pasta in my face.
Finally I put her in a taxi going to the airport via her hotel. Now she won't let me alone, I had to get a restraining order against her.
So Blonde, from now on, if I want to meet a woman from online, I will do the flying, and my private life will be off limits until I know the woman isn't a nut.
Keep up the good work Blonde, your articles do kick ass.
An admirerer
Vic
Found your blog on Craigs List.I am 44 year old female, and don't get to meet many men because of my hours working. Since I never date anyone from my workplace, I began trying singles bars, found out that the 20 to 30 crowd had those sewn up. So yes I met a guy I talked to in the over 40's room.He was a few years younger then me, but he asked me to dinner so I said yes.
It was a disaster, he kept calling me mom, I finally had the guts to tell him (listen i'm not your mother, so get lost).He then said (well you older women are way too needy anyway. That ended me meeting any onliner. Will stick with the gym or baseball game, anywhere but off my computer.
So i'de say sorry , safe or not.
Again you hit the nail right on the head with your new article Blonde. I do admire you.
Andrea
Hi sweetie pie, I call you that because I like what you write about, plus I got a feeling you are a sexy woman. Am a male, am 38, and boy do I have some zingers as you called them. I am a DC detective, and should know better Blonde.
Anyway sweetie, I met this woman from online, about 4 months, we had a nice dinner, she seemed semi normal, which is all we can ask for from aol. We went back to my place after dinner. Then she asks me if she can use my jag to go to the pharmacy . Being the trusting guy I am (or used to be). I said sure. Sweetie she took my jag and took off. After a half hour I called the station house, and had an APB put out on my car. They caught her trying to get to the Va. boarder. Well that ended my so much trust in people, mostly in aol women. Yea I was a sucker, but got my jag back.
So sweetie, if I sent you my phone number, would I be lucky enough to get a call? But where would I send it?
The good detective,
VINNY
it seems everybody is in agreement, you meet in a public place and during the day or morning, never at night. i did meet this one, she had 2 girls same age as my sons and i offered to take us all to Adventureland in Des Moines, Iowa. we got their 30 minutes before park was to open so we could see her and her girls show up then they showed up but i looked around and didn't see them. i kept hearing my name called but saw nobody i knew or recognize but knew the voice because we talked on the phone for a long time. then felt a tap on my shoulder and when i turned around i was and so were my sons, in total "shock", since i showed my sons her picture she sent me. our mouths must have hit the concrete. she looked like she slept in her clothes, all wrinkled and messy plus somebody beat crap out of her face, all red and blotchy, hair was a mess and plus there was this foul smell about her, like she didn't have a bath in over a month. not what i was expecting at all. For i went and got a haircut, wore clean nice clothes and looked good. in my mind i wanted to run but i didn't, i kept the date, i was a gentleman. as we entered the park she was all over me and i kept me telling her to knock it off, kids here. her girls wanted to go on a water ride so we did, waiting in line. once on the ride we all got soaked and her smell got worst. the people in front of us turned to look at us, smell was so bad then, it gagged you. after the ride, her girls wanted to go one way since they were never in the amusement park before and my sons (thank god) wanted to go other way so we parted. then my sons asked me why she smelled so bad and i told them i had no clue but my sons and i enjoyed the separtation from them. then we met up again somewhere in the park, kids were hungry so i fed us all inside the park. when we sat, people around us got up and moved to another spot. i couldn't eat. then as it got dark, my sons got tired and wanted to leave. so i told her we were leaving. throughout the day she wanted a kiss, wanted to hold hands and cuddle. i did my best to avoid that. she wanted to come back to my house and i made every attempt not to have them follow me but she insisted. i told her i was also tired and most likely we all would go to bed, long day in the sun. she stated she would follow us, her girls were tired also and they could all sleep in my house and she could sleep with me and i told her NO, lets call it a day. i knew she couldn't keep up with me for when i was in doubt meeting anyone, i would drive my 86 Pontiac Trans Am, very fast car. as i got onto I-80 heading east, my sons stated, dad, she is right behind you, go faster. both my sons and i wanted nothing to do with her, she lied and even sent a very old picture, like right out of high school not a current picture. it takes me about 3 hours to my house from Des Moines, Iowa and we got home in 2 hours. my average speed was way over 90 miles an hour and she slowly couldn't keep up till i lost her in my mirror. i never spoke to her again, she lied. but it didn't stop me from meeting women from online, just more careful. i did meet a few that did tell the truth and sent me current pictures of them but no connection, we stayed friends online. i have had 3 bad dates from women online, total liars.
Michael Allan
Hi Blonde, My name is Kathy, and i'm from Brooklyn, NY. I had been talking to a guy from manhattan for 4 months, he seemed to be ok with my 3 daughters, my eldest being 18. So finally I invited him to dinner with my daughters and I. At dinner I noticed he kept glancing at my 18 year old daughter, asking her lots of questions about her boyfriends.
When she and I went in the kitchen to fix coffee, she told me (ma this guy is coming on to me all night). So from the kitchen I called my ex to come over, as in a surprise visit.
My ex has always been very blunt, and open. During coffee Jimmy (my ex) says " yo dude your coming on to my kid and I don't like that.The guy stuttered and said he had to leave.
I've heard how these old guys date mom's to get to their daughters. Anyway , from now on am sticking to bklyn. guys. Online meeting isn't what it's cracked up to be, and I don't believe it's the modern way of meeting a guy.
Like your articles, keep them coming, lately their more interesting then the Post.
Bklyn mom.
Yo Blonde, like the new article babe. I stopped meeting anyone from online last year. I asked a woman to lunch, she seemed ok, a bit older then her picture, but still not bad. We got into a conversation about meeting onliners, she tells me she's looking for a husband to take care of her, said she wanted financial security. Now I make a good buck, but that's all she talked about. She asked me lots of questions about my financials,until finally I just told her this is only lunch, not a marriage proposal, Then she tells me if i'm not looking to get married she's wasting her time. This is a first meet for lunch.
The chick was only looking for a guy to take care of her. So after lunch I told her I was sorry but am not the marrying kind. She bolted out of the cafe.
I was glad she left, tho 2 days later she calls me, asked if I had changed my mind. I told her no ma'am, she kept calling,e mailing me. So I had to change my number and block her e mail.
This chick was way too pushy for me.
Not sure where you are from Blonde but if you're ever in Jersey would love to meet YOU. I like your articles and sense of direction. I picture you as a soft skinned, sweet smelling woman.
Jersey Jack
Read your comment Jack. A lot of women do meet onliners to find a guy to take care of them, or for security.
As for me, just aim your face toward the hudson, and you will probably be able to smell my OBSESSION. Am not obsessed, it's my perfume.
BLONDE BOMBSHELL
A good morning to you Bombshell. I am a NYC beat cop, and I meet all kinds, but the worse are the ones on aol or aim.As you must know on aol a person can be anyone they want to be. Give me a sincere woman with some intelligence, that's when i'll meet someone from on line. To be honest , I did meet one woman from aol last year. I figured what the hell, why not.
Well this woman only wanted to date a cop, and not sure why, since most of us are dogs.hahaha.
But not all of us Blonde.
It didn't work out for me with this woman, so she kept calling my precient, until my sarge told me, handle it or he would.
So I called her, told her I wasen't interested, and to stop calling me.. the turn off was, after the date she came back to my place, she kept touching my pistol, not that pistol, my side arm. I told her to put it down, and I locked it up where I always do. I think she had a thing about guns. Finally she stopped calling me. I think I know you, since word travels.
If you are in New York City, I would like to get to know you the slow and right way.I like your style, I close my eyes, and see you as a tall blonde, with romance in her heart. Am I right?
DUKE
Hi Duke, well you may know me, since yes, I am all you said about me. My ex was an NYPD detective, I know you officers aren't all bad, but I have to say he wasen't so good. Your name doesn't ring a bell tho, but we could have met and not know it at 1PP.
Always lock your gun up when you're home, but I think you know that now.
Be safe on the streets, we need good beat cops.
Blonde Bombshell
it seems that there are alot of sorry dates then happy ones but there are success stories from meeting online. before aol got greedy there use to be a site called LOVE@AOL, it was free. i met most of my female friends on that site but one in particular. she didn't think i would drive to Michigan for a cup of coffee and talk but i would have, only a 6 hour drive for me. 4 years ago she met Larry, a fireman and they have been happily married for 3 years. they met on LOVE@AOL. when you find someone online, usually by accident, you just have to go slow. step by step, not causing the female to panic and run. get her to feel safe and don't get in any hurry. slowly she will feel safe when talking on the phone and maybe over time they can decide if they want to meet in person or not or just stay friends online. the one in Michigan, we are still friends online and her husband Larry knows all about me since i helped her out a few times when she fell on hard luck trying to take care of her 2 kids when she lost her job and both of them have invited me to michigan for a visit. one of these days i might travel to Michigan to meet the man who married my friend.
Am a divorced dad of 2 girls, and very careful who I meet,Let me wish you a happy Easter first tho Bombshell.
I did meet one woman from on line, it was for a picnic. She seemed ok, I told her i'de like to know more about her, so she told me her life story. Then when she wanted to hear about me, it was fine until I talked about my 2 daughters, she shut down like a clam. When I asked her if something was wrong, she said she didn't like kids,that they always get in the way. Now Blonde she did know I had 2 kids before we arranged to meet, so it was no surprise to her.
In short, I thanked her for the picnic, and never called her again. My children will always come first. As a woman i'm sure you know this, and have a feeling you would agree with me.If you have a second after you read this, please tell me what you think
Joe Mantello
New Jersey
Hi Joe, Bombshell here. Just read your comment. I do agree with you, our children should always come first. As a woman I can't even imagine another woman not loving kids, I think the woman you met is selfish, into herself and nobody else.
To me it seemed she wanted you all to herself, and had no regard for your daughters.
I salute you for being the father you are.
I've had the same problem with guys I date, but hey if they can't accept who my family is, I don't give them a second thought.
SO BRAVO TO YOU JOSEPH.
BLONDE BOMBSHELL
i just read the comment by Joe and i can relate but it wasn't online date..i am divorced, got custody of my 2 young sons and being lonely, missing companionship i signed up for a dating service called "The Right One", plus a few others. they set you up on 6 dates by what you desired or was looking for in a woman for a price. ok, i paid. then you got sent information on them and you had to set up dates with them. the first 2, we weren't compatible at all so we parted company, now the 3rd one was a winner. we got along great but i had to take my oldest son with me for i couldn't find a sitter which was ok with her. we must have talked over 2 hours at her house and my son found a game system and started to play on it, she threw a fit, scared he would damage it but let him play on her computer. now my oldest son, you don't let him near a computer for he built his own at the age of 10 years old and i kept watching him so he wouldn't remove anything from inside. then she stated she was retired, her hubby died and left her well off so she didn't have to work anymore. she kept looking at my son then asked me who had custody of my sons? i stated i did, my ex abondoned them and me. then she stated how we got along great and her oldest son was grown and gone and she really didn't want to start over raising kids. then asked me if i would give my ex custody so we had no kids around. well that ended that in a heartbeat. i told her i was sorry, but i am not giving up my sons for any woman and i called to my son and we left not looking back and i never called or saw her again. with that in my mind, i didn't even respond to my last 3 dates from "the right one" and gave up. so with online dating, meeting someone on the street or a dating service, it is all a chance. you need to get to know them as best as you can and go slow. if on the computer you talk or chat, then sometime later you see if they give you their phone number and talk on the phone, still getting to know each other, then mail each other letters and if both agree then meet. most all of the women i have met online didn't live anywhere close to me 1000 miles away or better. i have flown to California & Ohio and drove to Texas, meeting one on my way to my moms. it all depends on the two people, whether they want to go to the next step or just remain friends online? i would never ask a woman to give up her kids, it is a package deal plus if a man can't get along with her kids, he should give up for a woman will side with her kids. they are her first responsibility, finding a mate, 2nd, even if she or he can't find a mate, kids always first.
Michael Allan
Good morning Bombshell. to begin with I am a 42 year old married man,married for 21 years. For the past 8 months or so, my wife has seemed distant, or (off in her own world).
I work a lot of hours so she can have the lifestyle she wants.Last month she told me she was going on a girl thing, for the weekend, I had no problem with that.
After she left for her weekend with the girls, the phone rang, a guy says (you must be Jenn's brother, tell her I already am at the hotel, so to meet me there.
I asked who he was, then the mook says (well bro, ur sister is the woman I plan to marry). Then I asked him how long he has known her. He told me he met her from online, and they have been together for almost a year. It was difficult, but I kept my cool.
Then I dropped the bomb on him, told him I was Jenn's husband, and told him to tell her not to bother comming home this time. He did apoligize, told me he never knew she was married. Then he tells me he can't be with a liar, well I told him I can't either.
That week I filed for divorce, she moved out, she told me she just loved meeting onliners.
When do people realize marriage is sacred?
Well that's my sorry story. I read an article weeks later where it said this aol meeting has broken up many marriages. Cheating just isn't my style blonde. Wanted to get my story out.Thanks for giving me a place to vent.
Dan
p.s. like your articles, keep them coming.
Oh Wow Blonde! All these possibilities for hookin up. They're all smooth talkers. I don't know if you could meet their expectations. Some are sad, some are happy, but I guess thats the basis of your question. Who and what do ya believe? Are the bad ones a ploy to get sympathy? Are the good ones really true? Just my opinion, but I'll trust my gut feeling. Theres plenty of places to meet people in person. Your question has never been answered and never will be. All there will ever be is statistics about it. By the way, how bout a weekend in Florida? YOU CAN TRUST ME!!
Lewie....
HI BLONDE, WELL THIS IS THE ANSWER TO MY HUSBAND'S COMMENT. MY NAME IS JENN, AND YES HIS NAME IS DAN.
I HOPE HE READS THIS, I WOULDN'T HAVE HAD TO CHEAT, OR LOOK FOR ATTENTION FROM ANOTHER GUY, IF HE PAID MORE ATTENTION TO ME THEN HE DOES HIS HARLEY. HE NEVER SENT ME FLOWERS, WAS NOT ROMANTIC IN ANY WAY. HE WANTED ME BAREFOOT AND PREGNANT, HE TOLD ME WOMEN DON'T DO THIS OR WOMEN SHOULDN'T DO THAT. HE NEVER GAVE ME A COMPLIMENT IN 20 YEARS.
I SAY OUR MARRIAGE ENDED 5 YEARS AGO, IT SEEMED THE LOVE FADED, AND WE JUST BECAME ROOM MATES.SO PLEASE DON'T JUDGE ME, I'M JUST A WOMAN THAT LIKES TO HEAR THE WORDS "I LOVE YOU" NOW AND THEN.
JENN
P.S. DID THE JERK TELL YOU HE CHEATED ON ME ABOUT 8 YEARS AGO, AND I FORGAVE HIM. I WELCOME A DIVORCE.
THANKS FOR LISTENING BLONDE
WELL IF YOU CAN MAKE IT LEWIE, I'LL BE THERE.
BLONDE BOMBSHELL
ALL I CAN SAY JENN, IS THAT THERE ARE TWO SIDES TO EVERY STORY.
ANY IDEAS FROM ANYONE OUT THERE ON WHAT THEY WANT MY NEXT ARTICLE TO BE ABOUT, PLEASE SEND.
BLONDE BOMBSHELL
You wrote a very interesting article blonde. My wife and I have been married for 25 years. We love each other, but after 10 years of marriage, we began to get too used to each other, so we joined a swing club.Then we went online, looking for other couples to meet, but just swinging couples.
Of course before we meet anyone, we do have them checked out, plus make sure they have a health card.
So yes, you can meet and be safe if you are careful , and before you meet anyone, look into who they are.But i'm sure you know that already Blonde.
How about your next article be about swingers?
The swingers,
Jon & Marie
TO Jon and Marie,
I NEVER JUDGE OTHERS, IF THAT'S YOUR THING, ENJOY IT. GOOD LUCK.
BLONDE BOMBSHELL
to meet or NOT to meet
I had been chatting with this girl from NJ for months, we had spoken on the phone and exchanged pictures and finally decided to meet. I drove to about 75 miles NJ to meet at a resturant and when I got there my cell phone rang. It was her explaing that she was just a few blocks away and she wanted me to know that the pictures she had sent me over the past few weeks were of her cousin and not her. She said she was good looking but felt uncomfortbale sending out her photos so she sent ones of her cousin. I got back in my car and left..we never met or spoke again
WELL YOU DID RIGHT, ONE LIE LEADS TO ANOTHER. GOOD FOR YOU WALKING AWAY.
BOMBSHELL
AM WORKING ON MY NEW ARTICLE, HOPE YOU CAN RELATE TO IT.
(DOES AGE MATTER IN A RELATIONSHIP? -OVER 21 OF COURSE)
SO WHAT DO YOU THINK/
BLONDE BOMBSHELL
LOVE THE IDEA FOR YOUR NEW ARTICLE, AND BOY DO I HAVE A STORY FOR YOU WHEN IT COMES OUT.
WHEN YOU READ MY STORY, YOU'LL UNDERSTAND.
SANDY
He's TOO Nice, You Can't Trust Him.
Sometimes people are so nice that it seems like they might have sinister overtones. I always see it on movies: The guy comes into the woman's life and he is just perfect. Then he slowly disintegrates into a psycho freak. Perhaps a guy can come off as so nice in the beginning that he appears to be covering up for something bad. A woman might avoid a relationship with him if something just doesn't feel right. What makes a guy too nice or "friend" material instead of dating material? Do you avoid getting into relationships with a guy who's too nice, or is he destined to be a "friend"?
Blonde,
In answer to the question, does age matter, let me see if I can make sense of this one.
Age is nothing more then a documented number of lifes experiences, categorized in time. If you are talking about a 18 year old female ,going out with a 70 year old male , (OR VICE VERSA) then I agree that is not only NOT very smart; as he (or she) is old enough to be her Grandfather, (or Grandmother) and she (or he) seeks but 2 things. A Father (or Mother) figure in life, or a early long term retirement plan. Now somewhat closer in age, say earl 50s or so to late 30s, could be right, if both people are truly searching and have found the person they want in the other. Notice I did not specify sex in this regard, as it is common in society to see either sex being the ages discussed. Personally, I am not interested in dealing with an individual who has nothing in common with me age wise, ( 70 to 18) yet respect the plausibility and ideology that the age could bring something special into the relationship, mid 30s to early 50s) irregardless of what anyone else thinks.
As long as you can realize that 2 peole care for each other , and have decided that she is what he REALLY wants in life, they are happy, then I say GO FOR IT.
You develop together , discussions and goals are closer in life, and you are trying as hard as possible to make it happen, then I beleive it will work.
Again, Cougars are out there reversing the roles, and some males like that in that age, or younger, not me..However I do think that once that special person has been found, within reason, age should not be the wedge that keeps them apart.. and again I define age as within reason, and not a history lesson away..
Blonde you are awesome, keep it coming....
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